At any moment, you have the choice to refresh and reset your energy.

Dear Mikey & Vanessa,

The key to life is energy mastery. Part of mastering your energy is being able to notice and regulate your emotions. Energy mastery means having control about how you feel instead of it being determined by someone or something outside of yourself. Instead of being a thermometer that rises and falls based on external conditions, you can be a thermostat. A thermostat sets the temperature and stays there. When you walk into a room, you feel the atmosphere created by the thermostat.

Being a thermostat means that no external power has power to change your inner atmosphere. No external power has the authority to direct your lifeforce or keep you stagnant. You, and only you, decide how your energy will express each day. Whenever you feel heavy, stuck, sad, depressed, or just plan down, think of the turn around game we used to play when you were younger. We’d be mad at each other, then decide to stop, turn around 3 times, then pretend like we hadn’t seen each other your however long the fight lasted. We would forget it all, hug it out, and move on. You two taught me that lesson in energy master. It is okay to feel intensity and be mad, but don’t stay there. You can choose when you are done being upset and release it intentionally. Pray about it. Write what is on your heart in a journal. Call me or one of your friends. Ask for help to raise your mood when you need help releasing hard emotions. Don’t burden your heart for too long.

I hope you choose to follow your heart and know that God will always give you the information you need for the next step of your journey. At any moment, you can change your life and the world by changing your heart. You can choose Love at any moment. It is your natural state. Your essence. You are a child of God. You have the breath of life. Borrowed for a finite time, but connected to the procession of all of the life that came before you. That life force beats in your heart in each moment. And as long as that is the case, you can choose Love at any moment. Love is available as soon as you release whatever was blocking you from expressing love to yourself and others.

All my love,

Titilayo

*Some of the themes in this post were inspired by Belong: Find Your People, Create Community, and Live a More Connected Life by Radha Agrawal.